These days, it's a mix. Because I've done significant transition, I get some relief around my family and at work. But for the safety of our marriage (legal issues with insurance and the like.) and our kids in school, and having lost a number of friends by foolishly telling them, I have to do the "guy" thing a lot. I'm also tall and broad shouldered. Think NFL linebacker.

It's not a good as it could be, but it's infinitely better than it was, which is where I keep my focus.